sooooo... yeah! that just happened

So i've gotten a few questions about how i got married yesterday..... I think my family was even pretty shocked and confused, because i'm typically a planner, but it LITERALLY just happened... on Friday the 13th at that.  How's that for a Freaky Friday lol?!?!?!


So how it all began...

We were planning to get married September 30th...
We have a venue...
We have a caterer...
The Dress has been ordered...
Invitations are sitting in a box next to my bed...
I'm studying for my principals exams, and in grad school...
We had un expected medical emergencies come up in the family...

There was a lot on my plate, to say the least and i've been super stressed.

For paperwork purposes, we knew we needed to get legally married prior to the ceremony, so since we were both off, we went to go get our license, and "SCHEDULE" a wedding with the judge.

Like seriously... i have on flip flops and a tank top.  I've been working moving my office, my hair is in a bun, and i have no make up on... aint no way i would've gone without at least some fake lashes if i knew...

As we are filling out the papers, the clerk, is joking with us about something, and i mention that D is active duty military. She thanks him for his service and says, ok well, we can waive the waiting period and marry y'all right now. Just walk across the parking lot and see which judge is available.

We laugh it off, and are like ok, we will go see. I think in both our minds, we were thinking its 30 mins before they close, we will probably book something the next week. no biggie...

when we get there, they tell us, ok! jut go across the hall and the judge will see you in a few minutes. 😂 Like y'all we didn't even have a witness... which apparently you don't actually need... lol

I text my mom, and tell her, "i'm getting married... like right now!"

They called us in, the Judge introduced himself, and asked if we had rings...
"ummmm I do. he doesn't.  we didn't really think we were going to get married"
judge: do you want to
us: yes

YALL he pulls out box of little fake rings, that we had to stretch for D's finger lol, and was like problem solved...

And just like that. WE GOT MARRIED... 😍

the judge took our picture, and he also took asked to take a selfie

Suddenly all the stress i had faded and it was just that simple.
We called our moms, because that kinds deserves a phone call to your momma, and texted everyone else.

Then we went to target and bought a plunger and some draino lol

and thats our story....

So if that isn't "LIFE UNIMAGINED" idk what is...

the psychic ....

if only there was a way to tag my bridesmaids in this post.... and i feel as if there was a prior post about this, i may just need to do some digging through my old blogs... so i guess ill just have to start from the beginning *shrugs*

prior to Sean and I's wedding, i had my bachelorette party in New Orleans, and while there aren't many stories i can share from that trip, lol,  this is one of them...

One morning, some of the girls and I decided to get up early and do a little sight seeing.  We would explore the town and check out some of the street vendors. While walking in Jackson Square, a lady grabs my hand and says she needs to speak to me. Pretty sure that she could tell by the look on my face that I was clearly frightened when a stranger grabbed my hand. When I looked around I saw an empty palm reader table and quickly informed her that i didn't believe in psychics.  She stated to me that she knew I was a non believer but had a very important message for me, so she would need to tell me about my past and current, before she could tell me my future.

She said that she had a message from my grandmother who had just passed away, and that i had told her something when i was alone with her after she passed at the hospital.
" She wants you to know that she was still there and heard everything you said.  She is sorry about what happened and understands and loves you too."

I immediately began to ball.  She asked me was i willing to listen now, obviously i said yes and sat down.

"You are getting married soon..." (now mind you i had on NO items to signify my engagement, not even my ring, i had actually taken it off to clean it and left it in the hotel room) "and you are wondering, if this is the right decision, the answer is yes."  

And again I began to cry.  Just a few weeks prior, Sean and I had our first real argument about his drinking, and we had discussed cancelling the wedding.  At this point deposits were paid, he had just transferred to Dallas, and we ended up talking it all out, but this was the first time I  was honestly concerned that he had a problem. I remember my cousin Arry and Lisha holding my hand and us just listening to everything she said, while i cried...

" This marriage is meant to happen and apart of your journey. About a year after you are married you will have a daughter.  she will be smart and beautiful and the light of your lives. She will help you... i need you to understand me, things will get VERY HARD, and VERY BAD before they get better. You must push through, and no matter what, STAY IN YOUR MARRIAGE... you will want to give up at times, and when times get hard remember to turn to God and your family..." 

and i just continued to cry... i mean this isn't the most optimistic story going so far here

"Once you can get through the hard times, eventually things will turn out better.  Eventually you will have two sons, very close in age.  Older than your daughter, i see twins, so if not twins close in age"

she repeated this part multiple times and it was very confusing at the time...

"you will be very close to one, and your husband to the other, you will be the protector of one..." 

i remember thinking that i thought she was confused and maybe picking up a reference to our family and not me, as this storyline sounded familiar, but listened anyway.

"you will eventually have another child, but when you least expect it, and it will be a son.  you will live a long and happy life, but whenever times are hard you must remember to turn to your faith, and remember to just keep praying."

When she finished i tried to pay her but she refused to accept my money.  I cried the entire way back to the hotel.  Sitting now its been almost 11 years since that day, and most of her fortune has come to fruition.  If that last part does, L will be a little disappointed, as she still prays for a sister almost daily, and is convinced that D and I "just won't give her one" lol!

But Lani was born 13 days after our second anniversary, and is the most incredible little girl i could've ever prayed for.

If you follow my blog, then you know the spectrum of how difficult things became....


And I am now I am the happiest I've ever been, and I've ended up with "two older sons" who are a year apart in age, and one who I'm constantly protecting from a butt whooping lol.

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future... Jeremiah 29:11