Friday, July 30, 2010

5 question friday

1. Did you have a favorite blanket or toy as a kid? If so, do you still have it? not that i remember.  i did collect Holiday Barbie dolls and my mom has saved them all for Lani.  We just need a bigger house, so we have room to display them for her

2. Do you dream in color? yes i do.  my dreams are  in color and i am the omni-character, so basically i'm whoever is talking at the moment.  but i see my self and everyone in the dream, so its not seem from my point of view.  i had a talk with someone about this before and they tried to analyze it for me but i forgot what all they said. 

3. How tall are you? Do you wish you were shorter or taller? 5ft even.... and yes "I wish i was a little bit taller. I wish i was a baller..." lol. jk. but i would like to be about 5'5".  I think that would make it so much easier to by jeans, capris (it always looks like im flooding) and knee length skirts.  they are just never at the right length

4. If you could have anyone's (celeb or other) voice as the guide on your GPS, who would it be? James Earl Jones. Couldn't you imagine Mufasa telling you to "make a right, your destination is in 100 ft." lol... ok maybe thats just but i call the lady on my GPS Sara.  She sounds like a Sara to me

5. Do you return your shopping cart to the corral or leave it wherever in the parking lot? Depends on how far away i parked from the corral. but honestly i appreciate when there is a basket right in front of my parking spot.  That way i can just pop lani in and keep it moving!

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Top 2 Tuesday

Top 2 Favorite perfumes/colognes/scents....
I love perfume. this was really hard for me, because i grew up with a mother whose closet could double as a perfume counter (and shoe store, and clothes store). However, most bug my allergies. Of course i love the regulars from Victoria's Secret (very sexy, angel, ect.) but my favorites are....

1. Angel would be first.  it smells like chocolate... yum right? i know... i just love the way it smells. its been a favorite since i was a teenager. 

2. There would be a close tie for second place between Chloe Narcisse and YSL Babydoll. I actually wore Chloe on my wedding day. Something about that smell just makes me feel beautiful and grown up.
And i just love the bottle for Babydoll.  Couldn't you see Carrie Bradshaw using that bottle of perfume. So sophisticated and sassy at the same time.  So what are your favorite scents. 

Friday, July 23, 2010

5 question friday

1. What were your school colors? Purple and Gold!!! woooooop  wooooooop (that the eagle call)

2. What's the best compliment you ever received? one of my students nominated me for Drivers Select: Teachers Driving Success . the letter she sent had me in tears.  best compliment EVER

3. Do you buy cheap or expensive toilet paper? expensive... its my dooty to please that booty... lol

4. Have you ever had a surprise party thrown for you? Or have you had one for someone else? yes. in college my friends threw me a party in the dorms

5. What is one material possession that you "can't live without"? my cell phone... i seriously have a panic attack when its missing

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Filling up the love tank (inspiring story for married folk included)!!!

So everyone knows I'm a Real Housewives fan. And by fan I mean I watch every season...
Some of you remember when Vicki talked about her "love tank"... Often in marriage we get so caught up in our careers and own lives, and sometimes keeping our heads above water and surviving the day, that we forget to be there for our partners.  And by be "there" i don't mean physically in the same room. I mean emotionally supportive, spiritually connected and guided, mentally connected and supportive, and yes, of course, physically connected too.  Sometime we are not reaching all of these parts in a marriage, and you hope that where one partner lacks, the other one fills in.  As someone who had been in a relationship with my husband for 10 years, I can tell you that at times we forget to fill in, and sometimes leave our love tank on "E". Now much like a car, relationships will only go so far on "E" before dying all together.  Its so important that we keep up the maintenance of our relationships, and that we actually ask our partner how and if we could be a better partner.  I'm guessing 9 times out of 10 there is something we can improve on.

One day i was driving and heard "Crawl" by Chris Brown and was literally brought to tears. I thought of the struggles in my own marriage and how we had changed over time. More so I thought about our future.

***Note: Watch until atleast 1:20 before continuing to read!

  I decided that I could be sad with the way things were going or do something about it, and we did.

One thing that we had to learn as a couple was that there was nothing wrong with asking for outside help and support. While reading a post on my friend's facebook page i got to thinking how lucky Sean and I were to have figured out we needed help before our story ended horribly. So read the story, and let me know what your reflections... is your love tank on full??? 

"Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up."


When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.
She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.

My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....
The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage! 


So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate. Matthew 19:6

Monday, July 19, 2010


I know we sound like some fatties blogging about a steak house, but sean has seriously talked about this place since we first met 10 years ago.  And when food network also stated it was the #1 steak house in the country, the story and legends just got even more myth like (somewhat like the chupacabra i saw running near our house but that will have to be another post!)... All day we heard the count down.  Random outburst of hours mostly ..."9 hours and counting" .... "6 hours and counting"... "1 hour and 42 minutes"...  "as soon as you are ready we are out of here"...

He was so excited that we thought he might explode on the ride down.

Notice the Laptop... He wanted to have a special music playlist for the road to cattlemans (*cough "Dork" *Cough)...He reminded me of a kid on the way to chuck e cheese.

Now i must admit the road to Cattleman some what reminded me of a previous creepy drive in my past. And since we was obviously not proposing again, i had to figure we were really going to a restaurant.  I'm sure i saw a tumbleweed or two... but  way off in the distance something began to appear ...

Now there were a few unsavory guards as we entered, 

but i'm guessing we past the check, because they let us in.

We took a few family pics.
Then he had a quick ego trip and only wanted pics alone..... what-eva

LMAO... After he finished with his "me moment" we had the most amazing diner ever.

So this amazing "Cowboy" steak that i had heard of really existed and was just as big as he said

While we were driving home Sean handed me a paper bag and asked me to "throw it out the window."
When I asked what it was he told me to look inside and this is what a found...

A necklace I had been looking at in the gift shop.  It was the perfect ending to a great night!!!

Saturday, July 17, 2010

5 question friday by way of El Paso !

1. Do you collect anything? Shot glasses and Butterflies.  well not actual butterflies, but butterfly stuff. My house, my class room, my back... where ever you look you will find them.  I want to learn to make a logo or signature or my photography with one in it so i can mark my pics. 

2. Name 3 celebrities that you find good looking. 
~Channing Tatum: From dear john and step up... in fact i tried to convince Sean to name our son (if we had one Channing)  
~Jesse Williams : Dr. Avery from Greys Anatomy... see my previous post about how hot he is. 
~Usher Raymond: Something about his swag makes me smile.  I also have a post from seeing him in concert.  if you can look at those pics and not see a hottie, then you're mad

3. Do you have any scars? If so, what's the story behind it (them?)?
*My knee (I had a complete ACL tear, during a steen hall talent show @ SFA ) 
*A mark between my eyebrows and the tip of my nose (I had a pretty nasty case of the chicken pocks in 7th grade.  I got them the weekend before thanksgiving, and didnt go back to school until after Christmas break)
*My left eyebrow (i had and Evil Kanevil phase as a child.  I truly though i was a dare devil. I would try to ride my bike off of the small cliff behind our apartment, or try to do a back flip off of the swings, which is how i got my scar.  I scratched my cornea when i landed and hit my head/eye on a large rock.  I had to wear a patch for like 6 weeks )

4. What is a food that you like to eat, but others might think it's gross or weird?
i love Calamari and Asperagus
5. Have you ever seen a tornado in real life?
Sorta.  When i was younger i would sit on my grandma's porch with her, and she lived on the top of a hill.  you could always see a storm coming, and a few times, we could see the funnel clouds in the distance. 

Friday, July 16, 2010

We're Leaving on a jet plane.... Dont know if southwest will let us ride again!

Honestly she did very well, until her earring got caught on mommy's shirt. But other than that our baby enjoyed the plane ride.  She spent most of the flight looking out of the window, and trying to get to the air vent, so it would blow in her face.  She thought it was hilarious.  When we arrives, we picked up aunt Joi, then went to Grandma Dea's house.  Soon she got to meet Uncle Calvin (who she seemed a little leery of), Uncle Leon, Aunt Karen, Rachel, and Ladessa.  Needless to say it was a lot to take in, and she is now completely pooped out.  Here are a few pics from today...

Before we got on the plane

 during the flight

finally landed...

... and its only the first day.

Much more to come...

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

PaPa's Bday

Last week was my dad's bday and as usual the majority of us were there and we were all a tad bit (ok 30-40 mins) late.  But i would like to say that good things come to those who wait.  we had a great time!!!

Friday, July 9, 2010

5 Question Friday


1. What is one food you could eat everyday? I'm going to so with Grill Talapia, seeing as i ate it ever day for like 4 months.  Seriously. i realy did! And while i was pregnant i ate a mc chicken sandwhich, fries, and
a large Hi-C with no ice was the meal of choice for months 8-9. Everynight sean would piclk one up for me
for my 4th meal.. LMAO. He would come in singing "Baby look what i got!!!"

2. Are you working in the career you thought you would be when you were 18? Yes. I wanted to be a science teacher since about 11th grade. I had some great science teachers at Richardson HS (Coach Deaton and Mrs. Price~although Umoh may disagree with me on that one) and at Westwood Junior High Leadership Magnet.  At WWJH i had this crazy science teacher that so reminded me of Mrs. Frizzle

(for those non teachers. "The Frizz" is the crazy teacher from the Magic School bus)
She wore crazy clothes to match what ever unit we were studying.  She used to live in Australia for a while and always told us stories about her trips.  She had birds that flew freely around our classroom, as well as many other animals (snakes, fish, frogs, rabbits, hamsters, etc).
 Between all of these teachers, I began to love science which i never liked before then. I learned how to innoculate and grow my own bacteria From Coach D (I was transefered from Law Magnet to Science Magnet). and Mrs. Price taught me how to be a better role model/leader with my community at school while also teacheing me chemistry. 

3. What is something that you wish you would have done when you were younger and you didn't?
i'd say start dance earlier, and take it more seriously.  I took classes here and there but was never very serious until Eaglettes

4. What color are your kitchen walls? Umm... I would say "Sand".  When my husband decided to move here (he was my fiance then) we were all about updating. So i started painting rooms and cabinets.  Honestly i'm ready for a new color.  And after looking at Jackie's new pantry ( at the House of Justice)I think i like red black and white!!!

5. Do you remember what your very first favorite song was? No. but i was in love with

New Edition and ABC so i'm assuming it was one of them. Or possibly Micheal or Janet Jackson. 

 I had the "Bad" and "Conntrol" Video Cassets with all the music videos ont eh album and would watch them daily and learn the dances.

Tuesday, July 6, 2010


Miss Langston actually turns 6 months next week, but since we will be in El Paso with Sean's Family we are posting a week early. 

She had a doctor visit today so we actually have all her stats for once. 
     ~ she received one shot in each leg (4 immunizations total)
     ~  weighs 12.5lbs (2nd percentile)
     ~ 24.5 in (15th percentile)
     ~ head 14 in
As you may have noticed her percentiles are pretty low, so her doctor has contacted a specialist to see if they want Lani to come in. needless to say my heart broke a little.  i knew she was small but didnt realize how small. I will keep you posted.

Whats New~
  •  hold her large bottles now (but usually doesnt)
  • sit up for a while with out tipping over
  • started on gerber 2nd foods (as she was eating two portions of 1st food each sitting)
  • grabs everything, especially hair
  • cries or screams when you take things away 
  • had her 1st 4th of july
  • still teething
  • will take her first plane ride next week
  • constantly babbling and growling
So far thats it but as always i'm sure there is more to come soon!


Monday, July 5, 2010

Lani's First 4th of July & future Gerber Baby

So yesterday was the 4th of July and we had a great holiday. Brian and Toni spent the day with us, and the original plan was to go to the lake with the Williams family. However, we found out they weren't going to have fireworks, so we stayed in Dallas and went to her "Uncle Shawn's" (one of sean's bestfriends) house in addison. After staying there for a while we headed back to G-town so we could see the fireworks since Kaboom town was the night before, only to find out that they were going to have fire works in addison anyways. It then became my mission to find fireworks for lani to see. Mind you its 9;30 and her bed time and she is screaming her head off it the car. So we decide to just go home and the minute we get to our street what do we notice... Lani is sleep, and we can see fire works in the distance. So we drive down towards some empty fields, which are actually filled with random people and cars, and we are able to see 3 different shows. I'm assuming plano, wylie and garland. At first i was super sad that Lani was sleeping through the show, so sean suggested we wake her up. I'm guessing that she loved the fire works by the repeated screams, giggles, and growls we heard! LOL!

Here are a few pics


On to the next topic. Lani's Aunt Arry sent me a link to enter Lani into a contest for the next Gerber baby.  I submitted apic a while back and honestly thought it didnt work, because i never heard anything else. But surprisingly i received an email from the Gerber company on Saturday saying Lani's pic was chosen and that voting for this month was now open.  So we literally messaged everyone we knew and have been voting daily for our baby girl. So if you want to vote for our sweet baby girl please click here. You may vote once per day per email address.  They will choose 6 winners per month for the next 6 months and a grand prize winner from those winners.

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